How to be Happy when you are Sad

Do you experience days when you feel like crying most of the time? When you try to shift your focus from feeling to doing. When you recognize your sadness, but don’t want to feel that sad, and work hard to keep yourself busy.

Everyone feels sad sometimes. In many cases, sadness is a normal human reaction to different life changes and events. The good news is that everyone also has the capacity to feel happiness and that there are things you can do to unlock that capacity and feel better.

The way you value yourself, what you think about yourself and how happy you are as a person has a ripple effect on all aspects of your life.

There is no magic solution to how to stop feeling depressed or how to prevent it but you can try few tips to help you feel happier, more in control, and be able to cope better with life’s ups and downs.

  1. Assess your sadness

Sadness is a painful emotion that generally stems from external factors, such as fight or disagreement with a close friend, moving away from family, or loss of a loved one. Sadness is also often a result of another feelings, such as anger, stress, guilt, grief, anxiety or hopelessness.

Hence, try to identify if something happened recently in your life that helps to explain about your current feeling? Identifying the cause of your sadness will better help you understand and move past it. Reflecting on the external factors will also confirm that you are experiencing a normal reaction of sadness to something that happened.

  1. Find happiness within

We often want other’s approval for everything we do. We constantly feel that something is missing within ourselves and that the outside world can complete us.

Happiness is about the process that happens within irrespective of what’s going on outside of us. 

If we want to stay happy all the time, it is indispensable that we learn to value and love ourselves.

  • Learn to forgive yourself for anything and everything you think you caused that was bad in your or someone else's.
  • Prepare a journal by writing down your thoughts and feelings, which may help you to better pinpoint the reasons why you are feeling sad.
  • Be easy on yourself and accept that there are few things you can’t change.
  • Be flexible and let go of fixed ideas about happiness. They help to prevent us from getting stuck in sadness and to navigate through and around the numerous bumps and pot holes we encounter on the road of life.

Start to believe that your happiness is more connected to you and your behavior more than any other circumstances.

‘Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.’ 

-Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

  1. Get involved in meaningful activities

A feeling of boredom and being stuck in lives without knowing what to do can proliferate the feeling of sadness and worthlessness.

In moments when you are struggling with unhappiness; look for something important to work on that will help someone in need, surround yourself with people who love you in an authentic, non-judgmental manner and practice positive attitude towards your sufferings i.e. your hardships occur to improve your lives rather than pulling you down.

“The meaning of life is to give life meaning.”

  1. Take good care of yourself

Take a look and notice how amazing you are. Taking good care of oneself is a key to a happy life. Taking comprehensive care of overall health can increase the likelihood that you stay well.

Some tips for self-care include:

  • Live Healthy, eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, and avoid drugs and alcohol.
  • Practice good hygiene. Good hygiene is important for social, medical, and psychological reasons in that it not only reduces the risk of illness, but it also improves the way others view you and how you view yourself.
  • Build a social circle and take out time to see friends to build your sense of belonging.
  • Indulge yourself in any recreational activity every day, for example, dancing, watching a favorite TV show, working in the garden, painting or reading.
  • Take some time out to relax, like meditation, yoga, or getting a massage, etc.
  1. Give Yourself Time to Be Sad

Most of the time, people try to avoid negative emotions because they are afraid of the pain and grief they will experience. But it is important to shed tears to let go of the emotions otherwise they will stay stuck inside of you.

It gets catastrophicwhen you try to suppress your sadness with negative behaviors such as overmedicating, excessively drinking or distracting yourself by overworking. 

It is important to experience your emotions (whether they’re positive or negative)completelyfor your own well-being.

  1. Be mindful

Use mindfulness to identify when you are caught in a negative mood or get trapped in negative thoughts. Stop there, and try to break the cycle by focusing on your breath and body. Try to gauge what can be done to move in right and productive direction or ways to cultivate a desired positive quality.

  1. Build a social circle

A major factor in happiness is social contact and support. Research has shown that social network helps people to come out the other side of the ordeal more easily if they have a network of friends and family on whom they can draw and rely. It is important to take out time to socialize; it will not only help to distract yourself but social interactions will help you to seek advice from your trusted people and then trust yourself to know what’s best.

If you’re sadness is lasting longer than you think it should, or if you think your sadness is leaning toward depression, ask for professional help.

Remember: It is going to be difficult and as I mentioned earlier that there is no magical thing but there’s always joy to be found in every moment, if we dare to look.

There’s always hope, even when you’re at the lowest point of your life. KEEP BELIEVING